White Chocolate Rocky Road

I have no idea if this is a retro recipe, but it has marshmallows in it and this is retro enough for me. I give you this recipe but I want to warn you, this rocky road is addictively delicious;)

Ingredients:

600 g white chocolate (you can of course also use milk or dark chocolate)

A bag of marshmallows

A handful of your favorite nuts (almonds, cashews, walnuts, ...)

200 gr. good quality soft gums.

50 gr. dried cranberies or raisins

Break the chocolate into small pieces and melt them in the microwave (+/- 1.5 min.) Put the chocolate in the microwave again when everything has not melted.

Meanwhile, cut the other ingredients into small pieces. Mix everything with the chocolate and pour into a mold covered with baking paper.

Let everything stiffen in the fridge for a few hours. Once hard you can cut everything into (small) pieces and enjoy.

Easy, delicious and MMM ... so sweet!

Miss Poppy

How to deal with toxic people

 Everyone at one time has toxic people in their lives. This can really be very harmful for your wellbeing.

The best thing to do is cut them comepletely out of your live. But sadly that isn't always possible. And sometimes you have to find a way to deal with them.

1. Don't take their conduct personally. This is all about them, not you. Just try to ignore their behavior as much as possible.
2. Don't engage in their attempt to throw you of balance. They will try to manipulate you and work on your sense of responsibility and use your loved ones against you. They have the talent to revert the situation so you become the villain. This can be very frustrating but defending yourself will be in vaine, sadly.
3. Don't expect them to do "the right thing". Often they lack a sence of empathy and can only see the world from their point of view. 
4. That said, it doesn't mean you have to accept their behavior. You have to set bounderies with these people. Somethimes in a very harsh way because otherwise they don't get it.
5. Try to stay in a loving place towards them. They often don't realize that they are in a bad place and are struggling with themselves. Also, again, don't take their behavior personally. They treat everyone like this.
6. They may try to get under your skin and try to convince you that you are the bad person, all because you're standing up for yourself. And they are very good in convincing others in reversing things so you'll be the one with the bad attitude (that's also called gaslighting) and they are the victim. Stand your ground and do not question yourself, and no, you are not over sensitive.

All that said, there is no easy way to deal with them. I've experienced that myself in my own family.

They can really do a lot of harm and destroy relationships sadly.

Stay safe,

Miss Poppy

The advantages of having an alter ego

I'm certainly not the only one that has an alter ego. An alter ego is having a second self. Years ago even Beyonce created an alter ego to feel more at easy on stage. And I've found that having an alter ego can help you in many ways. One tip, don't go to far from your own personality. My alter ego ( Miss Poppy) is someone who I strive to be, my better self.

So here are some advantages:

1. It can help you to step out of your comfort zone. I've done many things that otherwise would scare me to death. Like recording my Christmas songs.
2. It can help you make other and better decisions. When I have a challenge, I often pause and think: What would Miss Poppy do? That can give you an other perspective.
3. You can accentuate your positive characteristics through your alter ego. And devellop them further.
4. During difficult times you can distance yourself from the situation and get a better grip on things. Your alter ego can come to the rescue if you feel your losing it.
5. And having an alter ego is also about having fun.

How can you create an alter ego for yourself?

1. First ask yourself why you want an alter ego. Is it to be more confident? Do you want to be more outgoing?.... It is very important to know what direction you want to go.
2. Create your alter ego's personality. Are you bold, outgoing, brave... This should be in line of your own personality.
3. How does your alter ego looks. Create an image, how to dress, act,...
4. And then pick a name. 

After all of that, start to have fun with your new self.

Kisses,

Miss Poppy

Tips to live a luxury lifestyle on a budget

Recently my income has gone way down. As I like to keep the lifestyle I had, I've been looking for ways to substain that as much as possible.

These are my tips:

1. Choose a cheaper substituut. I'm a real Chardonnay lover so I swopped my normal brand with some Chardonny in 3L box. You might have to try some before you find something to your taste. But it worked great for me, and that can be applied to almost anything.
2. As for clothes, go for the classics: white blouse, black pants, cardigan, plissé skirt...You can always find replica's of the more expensive brands. If your consience is bothering you (because, yes, cheap clothes are not always produced the decent way) Try a thift store. Maybe you can find a bargain on an expensive brand. I got this dress for only 12€.
   
   
   
    
3. Look for discounts, yes it's pretty obvious but it can save you lots of money. Also don't buy anything you already have a simular item of. (so no 2 black cardigans)
4. Buy artificial jewelry. I buy a lot from shops like Kruidvat and C&A. Noone sees the difference unless they are professionals. And even then, who cares...
5. You can travel luxurious by traveling off season, to a less expensive location, And try asking for an upgrade for your room. Do you have any fancy hotels in your city? Maybe you could just hang out in the lobby for a little bit and take it all in. What do you notice? People walking through in their sharp outfits…women’s stilettos clacking on the floor…it makes you want to sit up straighter and get taken a bit more seriously, doesn’t it?
6. Save for higher quality possibilities. Sometimes a girl needs a bit of spoiling, so don't rule that out entirely.

So, hope this helps you on the way and if you have any more tips, leave them in the comments below.

XXX

Miss Poppy

Ten tips to clean up your retro wardrobe.

1. If you didn't wear the garment last year, get rid of it. Obviously, you don't feel well in this garment.
2. See what you need and what you already have, if there are already 3 black cardigans in your closet, don't invest in another one (as much fun as it is)
3. Invest in basic pieces: classic black dress, white blouse, ballerinas ...
4. Buy the right size, don't buy clothes for when you will lose those extra pounds, also no one likes to wear clothes that are too tight.
5. Put together outfits with what you already have, so you can see what you are missing in your wardrobe
6. Invest in accessories, they are a relatively inexpensive way to pimp your outfit and they will be loyal through thick and thin (haha, do you get it?)
7. Don't be convinced to buy something because it is on sale. If you are not going to wear it, it is a bad investment anyway.
8. Invest in shoes: classic black pumps, easy step shoes, summer sandals ...
9. Mix retro and vintage, it doesn't have to be all new and expensive. Some things like handbags get more beautiful with time.
10. Leave some room for drama: a little fake fur, an exotic dress, a showy pair of earrings, bright colors ... It doesn't have to be perfect and so too serious.

❤

Miss Poppy

10 tips to live with high sensitivity

High sensitivity is not a condition or disorder. You can't get rid of it. High sensitivity is a personality trait with advantages and disadvantages. 

Throughout my life, I’ve been deeply affected by bright lights, strong scents, itchy clothing, and loud noises. I know that once I got a terrible headache from the lavender bags my aunty made for me and she got really angry about it.

During childhood a was told that I was oversensitive and that I shouldn't exaggerate. So many highly sensitif people feel rejected. We feel like we don't belong. We feel different and misunderstood. Many of us try very hard to toughen up to fit in, to be 'normal'. Of course that doesn't work and this makes us very insecure.

Here are some tips enjoy your personal trait more and to grow more secure.

1. Stop making excuses for what and who you are. People who respect you will accept you the way you are, even if they don't always understand your reactions. The first step is accepting yourself and being proud of your assets. Think of the richness in how we feel the world arround us. The music we intensely enjoy and range of the colours we see.
2. We tend to be pretty hard on ourselves, so practice self-compassion. Be very forgiven for yourself. You should treat yourself like you would a dear friend. Never forget that.
3. Sometimes we get stuck in the emotion. We loose ourselves and are making things worse. If that's happening it's time to take a step back. It can help to talk to a friend who can put everything in perspective for you. Or you can try to distract yourself with a complicated task. Try to see everything back in right point of view. Learn how to recognize your emotions. Remember that distressing feelings, like anxiety, sadness, and feeling overwhelmed will be temporary.
4. Feeling rejected is something that is very common. Everyone is against you. Do not interpret your fellow man. You can't possibly know what he thinks of you unless he actually tells you. So if someone doesn't smile at you, it's not because they are angry but maybe they had a bad day.
5. We all have a big sence of justice and can get very worked up about that. But keep in mind, not every battle is your battle.
6. Do not try to please people by acting how you think they want you to be. You betray yourself and it is at the expense of your self-esteem.
7. If you have a emotional outburst, don't be hard on yourself. You were pushed too long, too hard, too intensely, at some point the bucket is full. Many times I've tried to point that out to my surroundings but many times they didn't respect my bounderies and kept pushing. So this passionate response was required. And even if I personally don't like losing my temper, sometimes it can't be avoided. 
8. Take many breaks during the day if possible, and try to get in touch nature. Nature is soothing and calms the spirit. If that's not possible then take a bath or listen to calming music.
9. Set your bounderies, this is a difficult one. Many people will try to push your limits. Pratice how to say no, how to say this is not acceptable. You will get resistance, don't give in.
10. We feel things deeply but may hide our emotions from others, because we’ve learned to retreat. Try not to do that, but speak about them to friends and family (only when your calmed down) 

Have a nice evening,

Miss Poppy

9 tips on how to stay sane in insane times.

Times are tough and it's difficult for everyone. But keep in mind that there's always someone who's in worse pickle than you are.

As for me, it's pretty challenging at the moment. At the end of 2019 life threw me some pretty nasty curveballs and ever sinds I'm going through some very painful and though times. So Covid-19 has made it only harder.

And yes, I'm pretty sure that there are a lot of people who have it a lot worse.

So how do you stay sane when you think you cannot handle all the worries anymore?

First of all I'll have to admit that there are times that I totally freak out and collapse. The trick is not to stay down and get up again, even if it's no picnic. 

Here are my 9 top tips:

• Keep holding on to the routine that you had before. Make a planning for your day. It's a good thing to do that at the end of the day before.
• Even when you have to stay home, reach out to friends and family.
  Stay connected through social media, facetime... Or call a helpline, anything that helps you to talk about how you feel.
• Move, yes, do some excercise, even in your tiny appartment you can do this.
  Look on youtube for some inspiration and make sure you do something you can stick to.
• If you have a bad day, that's ok. Don't beat yourself up over it. You are human and not every day has to be a good day. Just go with it, take things slow if you can. This will pass.
• Pamper yourself frequently. Take a bath, meditate, make a yummy meal, listen to music... Whatever works for you. You can never pamper yourself enough.
• Stay busy. I don't care if you start knitting or fill in some crossword puzzles. Keep your mind busy and focussed on something else then what's going wrong with your life.
• Take it day by day. Everyday is a new day. So yesterday doesn't matter. Start with a clean slate every day, and don't look back if yesterday didn't go as you wanted. There is no point in worrying about it.
• Before you go to sleep, write down 3 things that made you happy today.
  That is a very good way to end your day.
• And if you had it with these tips and need to let out some steam. Just scream, weap, punch a pillow... It's ok. You are not alone.

Hope this helps. 

Miss Poppy

5 Tips to get in touch with your inner strenght.

Inner strenght is very important in difficult times. So how do you maintain your inner strength? 

This is how you do that:

• eat healthy
• exercise
• Sleep well

These 3 pearls of wisdom are very important, AND everybody knows them, but sometimes they are hard to maintain.

One thing is sure, everyone possesses inner strenght, so no worries. And how can we radiate this great force?

Feeling strong is not only about you but also recognizing someone else's strenght.

Here are 5 tips to get in touch with this inner strenght:

1. Make eye contact, and acknowledge the other person. That makes them feel you see them and respect them.
2. Always take care of your appearance. Not only for other people but mostly for yourself. Selfrespect is crucial for inner strenght
3. Don't loose your temper. Yes, it's easy and if you feel you've been mistreated, it feels like the right thing to do. But don't forget, everyone has his own truth. Try to respect that.
4. Take responsability of your life. Don't point fingers to someone else if it's not going your way. You are in charge of your life.
5. Be unique. You can admire someone else but stay true to yourself. This is the key to feel confident.

'You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. ' - Marcus Aurelius

Keep safe and buy online, everything is now -50 up to -70% off.

Stay strong, 
Miss Poppy

Foam roller set and brush-out for a 1940's style look.

I am occasionally asked how I do my hair. I love a 40's vintage look very much. This video by Fitfully Vintageous shows very well how you can get that. I do use even smaller rollers. But the general idea remains the same. Above all, don't panic if you have to comb through the curls! Just keep going until you tamed them. You can, as it were, fold into a shape and then fix it with hair spray.

Keep on curling and check out the webshop!

There's a close-out sale.

And check out the other video's of Fitfully Vintagious.

Pilates, sounds modern but is actually very retro.

Pilates was developed by Joseph Pilates from Mönchengladbach, Germany. During the first half of the 20th century, he developed a system of exercises that were meant to strengthen the human mind and body. Pilates believed that mental and physical health were connected.



In his youth he had practiced many of the physical training regimes in Germany, and from there he developed his own regime. Pilates has clear connections with the fitness movement of the late nineteenth century, such as the use of special devices, and claims that the exercises could cure poor health.

Pilates, in whatever form, can now be found in community centers, gyms and physical therapy rooms, and many other fitness services offered by Pilates-inspired companies that have mixed their own understanding of Pilates with other disciplines.

Principles

1. Concentration: Pilates demands intense focus: "You must concentrate on what you do all the time, and you must concentrate on your entire body for smooth movements." This is not easy, but the way Pilates exercises are done is more important than the exercises themselves
2. Control: "Contrology" was Joseph Pilates' preferred name for his method and it is based on the idea of ​​muscle control. . "The Pilates method teaches you to have control over your body and not be delivered to it."
3. Centering: The center: to control their body, practitioners must have a starting place. The center is the center of the Pilates Method. Many Pilates teachers refer to the group of muscles in the center of the body including the abdomen, lower back and upper back, hips, buttocks, and thighs - like "powerhouse".
4. Flow or the efficiency of the movement: Pilates focuses on elegant movement, creating flow through the use of smooth transitions.
5. Precision: Precision is essential to do Pilates exercises: "concentrate on the right movements every time you practice."
6. Breathing: Pilates combines good breathing with movement. "Above all, learn to breathe correctly."

Below you can find a video of my favorite pilates teacher: Cassey Ho. Pretty hefty but very effective.

She has a lot of videos  about 10 minutes each. If you combine them together you have a great 20 minute workout.

Source: wikipedia

Lots of fun,

Miss Poppy

And take a look at the webshop there is a big sale!

Where have all the gentlemen gone?

Last I posted this quote on instagram: 

And I got so much reactions that I got the feeling that the world is in need of gentlemen.

And where have they all gone? Do they even exist anymore?

If you look at the typical male today, you might be dissapointed. What happened to honor, courtesy and manners? When came comments like damn, hot stuff and great ass the accepted way to show your interest in a woman?

Somehow I can't believe that all the gentlemen dissapeared. There are certainly lots of great men out there. But I get the feeling that they are scarce.

Men today put in just enough effort and charm to gain a woman's interest. To let her think he cares.  Like a cat on a string. He forgets that women have to be cared for, not that we are helpless, but we like to be pampered. And relationsships need maintaining.

Many men simply don't know their role in today's society. They hear mixed messages on what 'real men' should do and not do. Also from women who 'can take care of themselves'. Yes, we can, but that doesn't mean that we don't appreciate to be treated with value. And men who do shouldn't be viewed anti-feminist .

Let's be clear. A gentleman will open doors, pull out chairs and pay the bill. Not because he thinks she isn't capable but because he's interested, he values her and wants to show it. And empowered women can do all those things herself, but she can also afford a gentlemen his place without it diminishing her power, nor her independence.

I certainly wouldn't mind more gentlemen in my life!

Miss Poppy

Source: Thoughtcatalog

Trouble with putting on your tights? Here are some great tips!

So putting on tights requires some skill, specially with long nails. Often they rip while pulling them up or adjusting them.

So here are some great tips on how to put on tights without getting any ladders.

1. Don't wear any juwellery like rings, bracelets...
2. Roll up your panty leg to the toe-part of your tights and start there.
3. Roll up your tights untill over the knee.
4. Them pull them over hips and waist.
5. To adjust them you can use nitrile gloves, they tend to stick to the tights so pulling them a bit higher when they tend to slip down is easy. Just put your 2 hands on your ankle and rub upwards.

Hope this helps you a bit on the way.

 And go check out the shop, many new things have been added!

Miss Poppy

Different dress codes

Sometimes you are invited to a party or a wedding and there is a dress code. Here are 4 dress codes explained:

Smart casual:

This is an informal dress style, so almost anything goes. (If it is decent enough). Jeans doesn't belong here. A dress is okay, with boots are pumps. Combine a skirt or pants with an elegant blouse or sweater. T-shirt are only allowed worn under a blazer. No big logo's or writings on your clothing. And what about the men? Cotton pants, shirt and blazer are okay, no need for a tie.

Business attire:

This is a formal dress code for during the day. You can choose a formal dress (kneelength) or a pantsuit. Combine the pantsuit with a blouse, but you can also wear a top. Always wear panties with the dress. You can wear a hat. Pumps or elegant flats are okay. Pair your handbag with your dress or pantsuit. And what about him? A dark tailored suit, with a plain shirt, tie, dark soks and black shoes.

Cocktail:

For receptions and other cocktail parties.

A short or kneelength dress, think little black dress. You can wear dark or bright colours but the dress is one plain colour. You wear the dress with panties and pumps, boots are not allowed. Choose subtle jewellery and pair your small handbag with dress or shoes.

If it's cold you can wear a stole. And what about him? A dark tailored suit with a plain shirt, tie, dark soks and dark, classic shoes (boring)

Gala:

For special occasions, only at night.

A long festive evening dress with nice cleavage. An ankle long skirt with corset is also allowed. No pants. Long or halflong gloves are a must. Rings are worn under the gloves. You remove the gloves when eating. A clutch or very small handbag, matching shoes or dress.

You wear a shawl or bolero. And what about him? White tie= tail coat, black trousers, white shirt with wingtip collar, white piqué waistcoat and white bowtie or Black tie= Smoking

If you are invitesd to a party you chould check the webshop.

Miss Poppy

Something about elegance

Elegance has nothing to do with looks or beauty. Elegance is an attitude, a way of life. Walking a fine line in respecting others and respecting yourself. A loving way to approach people, but even more important: a loving way to treat yourself.

Elegance is caring and being centered. Not being thrown off by a problem but focussing on a solution.

And yes of course, looks can add to that attitude but are just a mere detail. Elegance  exhibits refined grace and suggests maturity. 



The Oxford English Dictionary defines elegance as “the quality of being graceful and stylish in appearance or manner”. 

Stay elegant,

Miss Poppy

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5 Top Secret Tips for Dressing Vintage/Retro/Rockabilly by A Vintage Vanity

I while ago I discovered this fun video of 'a vintage vanity' on youtube. Made for once in a refreshingly humorous way. You really have to look, I was a fan right away. She really helped me how to start with my retro look.

She has very good tips for a starting retro girl. And also understands very well that it sometimes takes a little courage make the switch to retro.

Below > the video:

Hope you enjoy it.

Miss Poppy

www.misspoppywear.com

Colours and mood.

Can the color you wear really affect your mood? Research says yes; color can absolutely affect your mood.



Here's a little more insight on the subject.

The thing is for example the clour blue reminds us of blue skies and calm weather, so it's logical that it stands for calm and stability.

So what is the perfect colour for different situations?

1. The colour green is restful for the eyes so a good choice for computer desktops and websites. It stands for healing, succes and hope.
2. Orange is a great colour to wear for your workout. It produces an energizing effect en stimulates the brain.
3. If you're a woman, wear the colour red on a date. Men are biological programmed to notice the colour red, so all eyes will be on you.
4. If you are a man, then wear the colour blue on a date. Blue is a stable colour and women like stable, trustful men.
5. For powerdressing wear the colour black. This is a great colour to wear on an important meating at work. Black makes you look powerful and capable. 

Now these are generalities that have been obtained from decades of research, but this is not a magic bullit answer. The advice is to play with it as it suits you.

And if you have found your perfect colour, then maybe you can check out the webshop for some new dresses.

Colourful greetings,

Miss Poppy

Make up, less is more.

Lot's of us feel naked without makeup, me included. But it's easy to overdo it. So how can we apply that beautiful simpel everyday look.

1. Foundation is sometimes a miracle solution, still, make sure you don't cover up your best features. The point is, you shouldn't see your makeup. And be sure to make a difference between day and evening makeup.
2. So skip the heavy eyeliner during daytime and apply some toned down eyeshadow and a light lipgloss.
3. Maybe you can also swap your blush with some bronzer during the day.
4. The advantage of wearing day makeup is that you can add some vavavoom to your evening makeup. If you always wear full face, you cannot surprice anymore.
5. Many men like us girls just the way we are, au naturel. And yes, we don’t wear makeup for them but it might be something to consider. 😉
6. If you do want to put some feature in the spotlight, choose for one thing. Lucious red lips, beautiful eyemakeup, perfect foundation or show off your fabulous cheekbones.... That gives you room to add something for your special occasion make up. 
7. Stay away from flashy colours like tangerine and turquoise. Only on very special occasions are they acceptable. Otherwise, go for a more subtle colourscheme.

And if that doesn't work for you. Throw aside all rules and be yourself. Rules are meant to be broken. ;)

 Also, check out our new arrivals at the webshop, to go with that beautiful makeup.

Miss Poppy.

Miss Poppy's morning routine for succes!

This is Miss Poppy's morning routine for succes. I strongly believe that how you start your morning wil determine the rest of your day. Having an early morning routine is a commitment to improvement. It means you will have time to yourself in a quiet atmosphere and gives you the opportunity to be more organized for the rest of your day, which cuts down on stress and anxiety.

So here's my morning routine.

1. Get up early, I get up at 6 and I only have to start to work at 9. I think you should take the time to wake up and get ready for your day.
2. As soon as I wake up, I'm grateful to be alive and I smile: yet another day to have some lovely new experiences. Yes, just be grateful that you are still alive, many poeple didn't make it this morning. And please, never ever hit the snooze button on your alarmclock. If you wanna ruin your day that's the way to do it.
3. Then I go to the kitchen and have a large glass of lukewarm water. Yes, lukewarm, that is the best way to get it into your body and absorb it. If you like you can add some lemonjuice.
4. Next I start with my 20 min. full body excersise. I surch for something on youtube and I change what I do from time to time because when you do the same thing time after time, it won't have any effect anymore. And I don't get bored.
5. After that I'm having some fruit or a smoothie or another healthy snack.
6. Then it's time for meditation or some selfhypnosis or some affirmations, also with the help of youtube. I normally do that for about 10 minutes.
7. Then I check my emails and messages. And put a new post on instagram.
8. After that it's breakfast time and I enjoy a tasty breakfast. 
9. Then I have myself a nice cup of coffee (decaf) and check out some inspirational video's from people that I admire. I try to learn something new every day. It's good for your brain.
10. And last but not least: I get dressed and do make up and hair. I always try to look my best because that sets of your day in a good way.

So, I know it's hard to change your habits, but beginning your day with a positive routine can make your whole day more successful. The only thing you have to do is stick whit it.

By saying with a quote by Jim Kwik: 'first you make your habits and then your habits make you.'

Happy mornings from

Miss Poppy

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The love test

I while ago I read an article in Vintage life magazine about a lovetest they applied in the thirties
This was a test to see if a couple was compatibel. 

1. The simpatic test: One must watch the other half go through something mildly traumatic and the one who is watching has their hartbeat and breathing measured. If it's rates increases, you have past the test.
2. Nervous disorder test: A man is shooting a gun in the air, and the reactions of both partners are recorded. If both of them are peeing in their pants and running arround screeming, the marriage should not take place. 
3. The physical attraction test: Both pulse and breathing are measured while embracing, if both heartrates and breathing are increased, that is scientifical 'evidence of attraction'.
4. The body odor test: One of the partners is placed into a large capsule with a hose attached. The other half has to take a large sniff and if the smell is found acceptable, the match is 'safe'

Very interesting of course, but what about love, a sense of humour and kindness??? And yes, looks?

Anyway, I hope you have found your match, and if not, take a look at our new collection to find you a dress to hunt down that perfect partner.

Happy Valentine's day,

Miss Poppy

Recourse: Vintage Life Magazine

The right dress for the right bodyshape

What dress to wear for your bodyshape?

1. A bit of a belly? just go for an empire dress. This dress is tight under the bust and then falls losely over the belly.
   
2. Straight body with not much waist? A wrap dress will create that waist for you and will look great on you.
   
3. Chubby arms? Capsleeves draw the attention to your shoulders and can slim the arms.
   

Full hips, bust and thighs? Choose a dress in a firm fabric with a nipped in waist. This will give you that nice hourglass figure.

                    All these dresses, and much more, are available at Misspoppywear

Love

Miss Poppy